How to Find Your Purpose
To find said purpose, you first need to know what you’re looking for. Here it is, my love, your purpose: Your purpose, your reason for being, is to be your authentic self.
When you’re authentically living your feelings, desires, and needs, then you will be confident, powerful, and infinitely more effective in the world. This is what the world needs:
“Ask yourself what makes you come alive, then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”-Howard Thurman
Is authenticity not the answer you were seeking? I have countless women asking me this purpose question every week and this answer never satisfies anyone.
Somehow we have this idea that “purpose” is a grand proclamation to save the world or some career choice. Sorry to burst your bubble, but your purpose is NOT to be a lawyer, teacher, mother, or the like.
Your purpose is the combination of your passions, skills, and service to the world.
I am good at reasoning, writing, and public speaking. Does that mean my purpose equals lawyer? Well, I tried that and the answer is no. A friend excelled at drafting, trigonometry, and anatomy. He tried Physical Therapy and it didn’t light him up, so he became an award-winning Graphic Designer, transitioning into entrepreneur.
I work with many women who are trying to find that one career path. Yet, that perfect career path is the culmination of every piece of you.
Consider that every single thing you do, like, or think is contributing to your raison d’être.
When I left the legal field, I became a life coach and mentor for women who have lost their lust for life. That is one of my many vehicles to fulfill my purpose, but it is not my purpose.
My purpose has something to do with each individual woman I work with; it’s related to how I bring light to my friends and family; it’s aligned with the energy I bring to the world.
Indeed, my purpose may be to empower women, but if I chose to quit The Glow Effect right now and focus on my own empowerment, I could still say that. My purpose is what I say it is.
So where do you begin to figure out this purpose, authentic you stuff?
Start by making a list. Make a list of everything that thrills you. List the qualities of your dream life. Realistic or not, write it down.
Does it include dance? Would you live in the suburb or a city? Do you want to work in an office? Do you make your own schedule? Water, mountains, or both? Warm or cold weather? Married or not married? What are you passionate about? What’s your message to the world?
Your list will be markedly different from every other person. That is authentically you.
There isn’t going to be an equal sign at the end pointing to a career path. Rather, there will be a collection of factors that allow YOU to come alive. That is your purpose.
Then fold up the paper or save the word doc and walk away.
Begin to see everything you encounter as evidence pointing to your answer.
Perhaps you see a common thread of editing, for instance. Let that be where you begin. Whether your vehicle remains as editing is irrelevant. That’s not your purpose, but when you figure out the larger why for editing (i.e. helping people to express their message) and combine it with a daily life that lights you up like a Christmas tree, you have found your purpose.
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